please take this one as a random rant from an comptely insane person that has limited social skills at best.
OK i consider my self relatively intelligent individual, I’m sceptical, inquisitive, even thou ive been called nuts people usually tend to consider me smart. you could say I’m way too quiet for my own good although that comes from two variables in my head first why should i bother second i haven’t figured out why. every person has their insecurities about somethings well mine are more involved in the relationships i never been particularly into interpersonal relationships such as friendships, co-workers nor thing that could be called “romantic” relationship. recently I’ve been bugged with situations i wanted to do something like ask someone out to a coffee but that’s where the second variable kicks in and shuts me up before i can say anything. i know its not the self confidence i got more than enough to voice my opinions and ideas yet i cant seem to be able to talk to opposite sex out of my own volition at-least the kind i might be interested.
im 20 year old IT-student not particularly bad looking nor particularly good looking either but yet I’m on a level of an 6th grader when it comes to opposite sex and talking to them other than few passing words while you are doing something else, seriously how many people of my age have kissed, had sex, had at-least some form of relationship with an opposite sex beyond a friendship. hell even that friendship concept with an opposite sex is a bloody new concept to me. OK if you still didn’t get the clue of how approachable i am well imagine Dr. Gregory House, Data from star trek and Garret From the good old thief games and from that you can deduce that I’m not particularly people friendly, curious, sneaky and devious if necessary… OK now i sound like a bloody sociopath that would be how i come across after people get to know me i would be classified as a nice guy maybe little too nice for his own good.
so im a bloody geek while most people were indulging in fun of interpersonal relationships in their little own screwed up way. i was either studying or playing games on my PC. why I’m not a hermit yet? i like people even if i don’t seem like it i find them fascinating once i get to know one individual problem is i find people i consider difficult to read (being not particularly predictable in their reactions or ways they behave) which are usually odd ones out from their groups either by their thinking or by their behaviour im fascinated by those individuals.
people that have tendency to go along with the group and be quiet about their own opinions or thoughts about what they are doing i find persistently annoying or futile. since people that bother to think on their own instead of going along with the group i tend to find less annoying or pleasant even with their quirks. so the point im dragging my self toward to very avoidingly that I’m practically going to other way is and i think possibly could be distilled into few prompt and random questions. i know its bloody insane to ask advice from the Internet but i don’t really have friends that have good experiences about such matters.
how to approach a girl with out making yourself look like an complete idiot?
if she says yes or no what should i do then?
what would be appropriate for scenario that if she says yes. coffee or similar?
should i give her my email or phone number in the end of that coffee?
is there anything that might have missed?
as for the last words lets say i got no experience what so ever of that type of situations… also that im not really comfortable asking those from my family since i suspect they might be more than eager to help… OK that didnt make sense why i don’t want to ask my family about this let me simplify, my family doesn’t really know my taste and i doubt id enjoy blind dates of any kind which i suspect that my family might be more than eager to try and arrange.
